Once upon a time, or as most tales go, a young gal with a heart full of love and compassion heard a story that made her very sad. Being two pennies short of common sense, she came to believe that she could fix this problem and therefore set herself up as a shield of protection.
Forgetting the words of John the Baptist, “I am not the Christ.” she stretched out her arms and stood in the gap between those who threatened harm and the one she was protecting. If she just tried hard enough, she believed or fought hard enough, protected long enough, everything would be okay.
Only everything wasn’t okay. The harder she stood her ground, the harder they fought and the more he seemed to need her. The more she did to protect him, the less he seemed willing to do for himself and the less honest he became.
Once she realized that no man carries a burden that someone else is willing to bear or faces a truth that no one is willing to tell him and that he’d grown weaker and not stronger like she’d hoped, she laid down his cross and took up her own.
She meant well and it almost cost her life. In time she remembered the words of the one in the desert. The one who’s role was to make straight the crooked path, and point believers to the one who would come after him. She remembered that “standing in the gap” means standing in prayer and support, not in self-sacrifice.
She found a note one day, written just for her and other two-penny-short friends who mean well. Together, she and her new friends, trudged the road of happy destiny. They laughed, leaned on each other, and stayed under the protective wings of the God they no longer needed to pretend to be.
- To “Let Go” does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
- To “Let Go” is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another. To “Let Go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
- To “Let Go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
- To “Let Go” is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
- To “Let Go” is not to care for, but to care about.
- To “Let Go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
- To “Let Go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
- To “Let Go” is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
- To “Let Go” is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality.
- To “Let Go” is not to deny, but to accept.
- To “Let Go” is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
- To “Let Go” is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.
- To “Let Go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
- To “Let Go” is to fear less and love more. – Unknown.
Letting Go – is my knowing that I cannot play God and believe in God at the same time.
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This post written by Deana O’Hara for Redemption’s Heart. July 22 2009 and may not be copied in any way shape or form.