How are you?
Just doing life. I’m fine. You?
Liar liar pants on fire!
Do you know what fine means? Feeling Insecure Neurotic and Emotional.
How many times do you or I have conversations just like that and we’re lying through our teeth? Why do we do that? Fear, Arrogance? Pride? I’m not sure. But we do.
We used to sing this camp song at school called, Going on a lion hunt.
Anyone remember the words?
Goin’ on a lion hunt.
Goin to catch a big one.
I’m not afraid.
Look, what’s up ahead?
Can’t go over it.
Can’t go under it.
Can’t go around it.
Gotta go through it. [Make sloshing sounds and move hands as if slogging]
Life is like that sometimes. We might not intentionally go out hunting lions, but we come up on all kinds of obstacles.. and we can either wear ourselves out trying to force ourselves over, under, or around – OR we can go through it.
To tell you the truth, I’m not the best “goer through-er” kind of person. I’d rather see the issue and be over it already. I don’t like feeling raw and I don’t like the insecurity the unknown brings. Nor do I like the vulnerable feeling of letting someone else know I’m going through something hard.
Getting “over it already” is arrogant especially if I’ve minimized what’s really going on. Some life things really are hard.
Curling up and dying rather than deal with the issue is like trying to go under it. It buries you and solves nothing. I know, because I’ve been there — two years of depression. It was horrible. Thankfully – I’m out of that and far better.
Pushing it aside and trying to go around it by ignoring it doesn’t work either.
The only honest approach – the one that gets any of us to the other side is to admit, “this is hard” – and then put one foot in front of the other and trust that you can and you will walk through it one day at a time.
You don’t have to be tough.
Or hold your chin up.
You can cry if you need to.
Laugh when you can.
Breathe in and out.
Stay in today.
And before you know, it’ll be tomorrow, you’ll be through it and you will be stronger.
But it all begins with telling the truth. What you find when you do that, when I do that, is people are far more understanding, helpful, loving, and compassionate than we ever imagined. By telling the truth we find our hope again and that’s a good thing.
This post written by Deana O’Hara for Redemption’s Heart. All rights reserved.